Attracting Love Series: 2
Updated: Jul 8, 2019
May 13th 2016
In this series of 7 videos, we are looking at the habits of people that are able to attract high quality relationships. The second habit is "Completion", being a tree and not a bee.
The second habit of Attractors who consistently attract high quality relationships into their lives is that they don’t feel as though anything is actually missing from their life. Even though they would like a relationship, they don’t feel as though they’re going without, that their life is substandard at any level.
It may seem contradictory to have these two thoughts, ‘I want a relationship’ and ‘there’s nothing missing in my life’. It feels like a bee flying from one point to the other and having consistent milestones and goals. And so, when you look at someone who’s got what you want, it looks as though they are further along on the path.
Instead of thinking about relationships like that, the way I like to think about it is think is like this. Think of yourself as a tree planted, rooted, grounded. As your roots spread deeper into the earth, your branches are equally spreading higher into the sky. There’s no other place that you need to be. You’re just full. You’re growing and expanding from where you are. And so the branches might want to reach in different places and they want to experience different things and you want to be in areas that you’ve never been before, but it doesn’t mean that where you are is lacking in any way.
More than that, where you are heading is just going to enhance your experience. It’s going to be different but it’s not necessarily going to be better. Attractors know that. Attractors know that where they are is the fullest place that they can be. They also know that a partner is not going to make them feel any better about themselves. When they’re thinking about having a partner they’re just thinking about fun. They are thinking about expansion, about companionship, about all the wonderful things that they can experience with a partner.
At the same time, they feel very full in their lives. They are not stuck in a place where they feel that I’m not happy until I receive a partner, something’s missing and when the partner comes then I’ll feel like everything’s complete. They are complete where they are because they really nourish and appreciate their life as it is. They’re so grateful that whatever comes in whatever form, it’s just going to add to that experience of feeling full and whole.